You may be wondering what the article is about, is it clickbait? Nope! Then why does the title suggest having a big, pompous, and grand wedding? Especially when there are talks about modesty and being humble about the celebration these days. Before you jump to any conclusion, hold your horses, and stick around for a bit. Maybe the whole process of clicking and reading this will not be a total waste of your time.
Unless you have been living under a rock (which is fine by the way), you must have come across the news headlines on the extravagant Jalal sons and Master tiles grand wedding—and the endless debate about it being justified or not. And the criticism on poor Mulana Tariq Jamil who got caught in all the fiasco and had to clarify himself to self-righteous netizens.
On the contrary, we have also seen couples on social media boasting about how simple their wedding celebration was. Their simplistic approach to this was in stark contrast with the grand shows done by rich desi families. Kudos to them for adopting this humble approach. Surely, a simple wedding is encouraged in Islam.
But I dare to ask, is spending a huge sum of money on a special day is really that bad? Does doing this automatically label you as a show-off and makes you arrogant? I think not.
Let us leave ethos on the side and talk about the economic effect such celebrations have on our developing society. According to news sources, the local wedding industry is worth Rs. 900 billion. The Karachi Chamber of Commerce and Industry (KCCI) estimates that an average family spends approximately Rs 1.3 million on wedding expenditures.
To analyze this, let’s dive deeper and take my friend’s wedding as a case study—which I was unable to attend due to being bound by the pandemic and ruthless corporate rules that rob its employees of any fun.
A case study
Anyhow, back to the wedding. The Dullah made sure that his friends made arrangements of a dancing horse, fireworks, those yellow-clad bhangra people that put life into a boring event, and a band that makes a wedding look like a passing out parade of PMA Kakul. That spinning stick trick done by the captain of the band is a treat to watch.
Taking fireworks as an example. This may sound like an unnecessary thing, and surely the bride and groom could start their married life without it, but if you trace back carefully there is a whole industry of fireworks in our country. A whole market at the center of Raja Bazaar(Pindi) that deals in this. MILLIONS of people are associated with it.
The few moments of adrenaline you get and the fun you have watching those sparkly marvels in the sky puts food on the poor man’s table. The poor man who works in the firework work industry and labor he gets runs his little household. The transportation guys that deliver the load from the factory to shops, the “Chotu” that works in the shop who is the sole breadwinner of home, all of these are associated with this business.
What about that dancing horse? There are people who live their lives training and nourishing that elegant beast so that when the time comes, we can finally sing “ veer sada Ghori charya”. It is their family business and that’s how they get by.
Any person who has experienced Pindi in its raw and pure form has seen those bhangra people on the bustling committee chowk, donning yellow threads with a “Dhol” hanging around their neck, ready to party. It’s a business that has tons of people associated with it. Your money is what drives their home.
What about that young photographer who covers the lavish wedding and by the amount he earns pays his university dues. The list goes on and the chain of people associated with this wedding business is endless. The trickle-down effect this causes has a huge impact on the lives of many.
By now you must have grasped the point that I am trying to make. This pompous and glamorous display of wealth done by the rich actually drives the home of many less fortunate people. It’s the fire that drives the engine of society.
Now people may argue, all this help of poor people can be done if all the extra cash spent on these wedding are donated to charity. True, but that’s not enough to run a society. The economy doesn’t run on charities. Sure, it helps in the short term but to live by a household needs a steady income. We need skilled people and their services and an environment that helps these people grow their businesses. Only then we can progress as a society.
Through the aforementioned argument, I am not saying one must have a big event rather it is OK to have one. If you can afford it, have a big heart, and spend cash to make this special moment of your life memorable.
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